Some of the most amazing women I have ever met in my life are true goal diggers. And to be a goal digger is something I always aspire myself to be. Please don’t get that mixed up with Kanye West’s single “Gold-Digger” because it’s a totally different thing.
Gold-diggers are superficial women who focus too much on how things look from the outside. These type of women depend on men to support them in social climbing their way up. Unfortunately these type of women have low self-esteem and are looking for the easy way out.
Goal-diggers on the other hand focus on their own individual dreams, aspirations and real goals in developing themselves into self sufficient and resilient women. They don’t depend on men to support their lifestyle and they love their independence.
Anywaay…. Here are just some few principles of a goal digger.
1.Career is Very Important
I’m gonna make a clear line between a Career and a Job. A job is just something you do to make money, whereas a career is something you can imagine yourself doing in a very long term. My career right now in the zoo industry has become my life. Honestly, I can no longer imagine myself doing anything else with my life. Unlike a job, a career not only can make money, however it can also give you experience and skills. With the animal keepers at the zoo I always tell them: “It’s up to you whether you want to treat this position as a job or as a career. If you want to treat this as a job, then I won’t expect anything else from you except to work 8 hrs every day. However, if you want to treat this as a career, I’m going to push you, I’m going expect so much from you, you’re not always gonna like it, but trust me, you will learn so much more in return.”
Of course this applies only to about 10-15% of the animal keepers I work with, which brings me to the second point.
2. See Challenge as an Opportunity and Not an Obstacle
Everything happens for a reason here. We cannot control everything around us but we can decide how those things affect us. Problems and Obstacles are signs that we are indeed living. You cannot avoid them while you’re still alive. What we can do however is to deal with them. Therefore don’t react, respond.
Get out of your comfort zone. I believe that goal digging women especially have so much incredible potential inside. I always believe that somehow, God has bestowed each and every one of us gifts and talents, and that God would never put us in a situation if He doesn’t think that we can overcome it. Anyone can stay calm and happy when situations favours around us. For a goal digging woman, it takes courage to keep going in the dark.
3.The Glass isn’t Half Empty or Half Full, It’s ALWAYS Full
No matter how I look at it, when a glass partially filled with any liquid substance, it is still also filled with air, therefore the glass is always full. Whichever way we think about it, it’s still a glass, even if there is nothing inside, it will always be full. This is something I want to point out. In order to be a goal digging woman, is the realization that no matter our perception, it will not get us by in life. You can sit and contemplate your situation, trying to make sense of it all, but in the end, you’ve wasted something very precious, and that’s time. You can not get any of that back, so why don’t we spend it more wisely? Why don’t we spend it doing the things we love and absorbing all the knowledge and experience within this short life that we have?
4.People’s Opinion of You is None of Your Business
Here it is. When you put yourself out there in the world and dare to follow your dreams, it is a risk. It is a vulnerable and courageous act. People will always judge you, people will always say things about you, and people won’t like you. However you have to realize that these people do not determine your happiness. In fact, you do. Do not give even those who know you the power to determine who you should be and what your limits are. So if you want to be a goal digging woman, know who you are and that is enough.
Moral of the story:
Be goal digger girls! It’s so much more attractive when you have complete control over your life and decisions. Goal diggers will never sacrifice their independence for an easy ride.
Throwback to something I wrote a while back for the University’s Faculty of Veterinary Medicine graduate newsletter in 2014. I’m very proud of myself because through all the ups and downs I persisted with my idealism and fought so hard to become who I am today no matter how many times people have doubted me. 😀 #slay
Also the most important thing about awareness is that it doesn’t count if you keep it to yourself. Influence is key! 🤗
Lately I have been thinking about it a lot actually, and that is to disconnect with social media. I consider social media as facebook, twitter, instagram, path, linkedin, etc etc. Thank God I’ve deleted my twitter account a loong time ago and I don’t have a path account. But what made me consider it? Honestly, lately I’ve felt that my privacy has been violated. I felt like whatever I do there is going to be those pairs of eyes that is watching my every move. Honestly, I am terrified. I am terrified of the stalking I am getting from some few individuals.
I can deal with disappearing from facebook. I don’t even use it most of the time. Instagram, however, is something hard for me to give up, mostly because initially I wanted to use instagram as a platform for zoo awareness, animal advocacy, autoimmune disease awareness, and to basically present my life’s work. However, ever since I made my instagram private, I’ve realized that now sometimes, something as precious as my privacy, outweighs more than all of that intentions. And that there are so many other ways to do what it is that we can do without having to sacrifice your own privacy and self dignity. There is one thing we have to realize and that is Life is NOT a competition.
Sure some people like posting about their acheivements in life, maybe they have an awesome job that allows them to travel places, maybe they have a super happy family and adorable kids, maybe they are simply in love and showing everyone how much in love they are.
In the end, it’s not so much about what they post, but in the end it’s about how they make others feel. The next time you post a photo, you really have to ask yourself, am I posting it so that I look good to others? Am I posting it to show others how happy I am where in fact I’m actually sad and l crumbling inside? Am I posting it because I need some kind approval from the outside world because I’m actually lonely inside? If you actually answered yes to any of these questions, I recommend you stop and try to fix yourself first before anything else.
Personally I used to get real jealous of people who get to travel for their career. It is later on when I did that I realized that it’s not as great as it looks like. Sure you get to visit new places, but the travel that is done when you’re also at work, does not count as traveling. You get tired easily, jet lagged, and sometimes when you hit a certain destination all you want to do is just sleep. Sure they get to take cool pictures, but I realized that it’s not always so great and it’s not an accomplishment. We all get so caught up in curating our lives through social media that we actually forget how to live. We are so caught up on how everything looks like rather than how everything actually feels.
There is this one interview with Emma Watson that was taken recently:
I am very conscious and super careful of what I post on social media. Posting so many things about my family and the people I love is something I don’t like doing, mostly because out of love, I actually consider how everything may affect their lives as well.
My account will still exist on facebook and linkedin but i will no longer check or post anything on them… I will still post on my instagram from time to time on some not so private things on a private account (mostly about animal awareness) and update my blog as I have done since 2006 in regards to my thoughts and feelings, but that’s about as far as I am gonna go.
Last but not least, whatever you post, just make sure you are not a validation whore who seeks approval and likes, because if you are worried about something like that, I suggest you look for some professional help for your self esteem.
To be very honest I have never celebrated Valentines Day ever since I was 12 when people sent chocolate kisses and secret admirer notes through a service they had at school for fundraising. At that time it was just a norm for everyone to do so and I have to admit I even sent myself chocolates during that time :p … But ever since grade school I have never attempted to celebrate this day of love whether I am single or not single.
To be fair, you probably understand that I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. Of course I love romance just like every woman does, but what does it really mean? When I was single, this day feels like a reminder of my solo status, however now that I’m not single anymore, I also never felt like it was necessary to celebrate this day. Why? Simple. Because if I ever find myself questioning why I am not celebrating this day with my boyfriend, then I know that it’s time for me to get out of that relationship.
When you are in a healthy and loving relationship, you will never feel it’s a necessity to affirm your love on Valentine’s Day because it comes naturally everyday. Valentine’s day is not about being forced to show your affection. If you feel like you NEED to have a valentine’s date night with your significant other, then it’s most likely that you are struggling with your relationship and you probably feel a lack of acceptance and support. If you feel like you are forcing your significant other to show grand gestures to “celebrate” this special day, then you are probably craving some assurance of how they feel about their commitment to the relationship. Believe me, these gestures will never be able to replace emotional intimacy and emotional security that a true loving relationship has.
And with me and you right now, I hope I will never feel the need to celebrate this day with you, because everyday with you is already and always will be Valentine’s day. I love you more every single day… ❤️
This time around, I hope that I will be reminded of the faith and vulnerability that is required in our journey. And hopefully I will continue to accept, in a deeply personal way, how much opportunity we both have to be strong in our own weakness, even if you’re my weakness.
There is a strange feeling you get when leaving a place… Be it a country, a home or even a job. Today I said goodbye to 205. I guess I never really thought about it until today. I was getting frustrated and clausterphobic because the 1 bedroom apt just seems like it wasn’t enough to accomodate more than 1 person and the 2 cats… However, today when I was shifting our things to the new 2 bedroom apt, I felt a little pang in my heart. I realized how much good and bad memories this place witnessed and leaving it feels like leaving a part of yourself. However, the time has come to say goodbye. Thank you 205, thank you for witnessing all the wonderful memories for the past 2 years.